melodioussoul
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Hi everyone,
I know I haven't posted a lot on here these days, and this is a long post, so please bear with me. So I've met someone pretty special recently, and I'm just wondering at this point what I should do. I generally like to go out dancing on weekends, particularly Saturday nights. I've found one place I really like, so I'm pretty much always there. Well one night I was on the dance floor and there was a lady who appeared to be just dancing by herself. I was attracted to her smooth moves, so I tapped her on the shoulder and complimented her on them. We danced together for the rest of the evening until the club closed. Nothing really came of that, but then I saw her again another night, and this time it was the exact opposite situation. I was dancing by myself and she tapped me on the shoulder. This happened not once, but two or three times. I'm not used to this kind of attention from a lady, so I didn't really act on it.
Anyway, flash forward a time or two and one night we're dancing together and decide we both need some air, so we go outside and just talk. I learn that she has two young kids, the older one being 11, and that she's also really into the arts, even having a job in the field. To my pleasant surprise, one of these nights when we were outside of the club taking a breather, she asked for my number because she mentioned checking out a new spot besides the one where we always dance together. So since we've exchanged numbers, we check in through text basically weekly to see when/if we plan on going dancing again the coming weekend, and we usually do.
The night usually ends with us just walking each other to our cars, hugging, and saying goodbye, but I think I'm ready to do something a little different. I genuinely feel some kind of way when I'm with her, and it's good. The way she smiles when she sees me, laughs, and of course dances, I just love and I really wanna see if we can take things beyond the dance floor. The funny thing is, I was convinced I wasn't interested in dating a lady with a child again because I tried that before and it didn't work out, but I'm thinking it was just the wrong person before. She has mentioned her kids several times and I find myself really being okay with it, and actually looking forward to one day meeting them (and especially playing video games with them because she's told me they're into that). We seem to have a lot in common so far in terms of our ideals and what we're into. This is the most genuine, organic connection I've made with a lady in nearly 5 years, so I feel like I should do something about it.
My main concerns now are that she won't be interested in me because our lives are a little different, with her having kids and me not having kids, and her being divorced and me never having even been in a long term relationship. Additionally, although she hasn't told me her age (I haven't asked, and I don't care), I'm thinking she's at least early thirties with the two kids, assuming she was at least 18 before she had the older child. She could be even older than 30s though and just have a really young face, I don't know. I'm hoping she wouldn't think I'm too young for her at 27, and looking younger than that myself, more like 18.
So I guess my question is, should I just go for it already? We did dance together last night, and I thought about asking her on a date, but didn't because I just couldn't get myself to. The last time we hung out before this, was before the holidays, and I decided to hold off then, well because the holidays were coming, and after a conversation we'd had when she mentioned a recent breakup, I figured the timing wasn't right. But after an exchange last night when she said she was hungry because she hadn't eaten dinner before going out, I figured maybe next time I'll just ask her if she'd like to out for dinner sometime, perhaps even before we go dancing one night. What do you think?
I know I haven't posted a lot on here these days, and this is a long post, so please bear with me. So I've met someone pretty special recently, and I'm just wondering at this point what I should do. I generally like to go out dancing on weekends, particularly Saturday nights. I've found one place I really like, so I'm pretty much always there. Well one night I was on the dance floor and there was a lady who appeared to be just dancing by herself. I was attracted to her smooth moves, so I tapped her on the shoulder and complimented her on them. We danced together for the rest of the evening until the club closed. Nothing really came of that, but then I saw her again another night, and this time it was the exact opposite situation. I was dancing by myself and she tapped me on the shoulder. This happened not once, but two or three times. I'm not used to this kind of attention from a lady, so I didn't really act on it.
Anyway, flash forward a time or two and one night we're dancing together and decide we both need some air, so we go outside and just talk. I learn that she has two young kids, the older one being 11, and that she's also really into the arts, even having a job in the field. To my pleasant surprise, one of these nights when we were outside of the club taking a breather, she asked for my number because she mentioned checking out a new spot besides the one where we always dance together. So since we've exchanged numbers, we check in through text basically weekly to see when/if we plan on going dancing again the coming weekend, and we usually do.
The night usually ends with us just walking each other to our cars, hugging, and saying goodbye, but I think I'm ready to do something a little different. I genuinely feel some kind of way when I'm with her, and it's good. The way she smiles when she sees me, laughs, and of course dances, I just love and I really wanna see if we can take things beyond the dance floor. The funny thing is, I was convinced I wasn't interested in dating a lady with a child again because I tried that before and it didn't work out, but I'm thinking it was just the wrong person before. She has mentioned her kids several times and I find myself really being okay with it, and actually looking forward to one day meeting them (and especially playing video games with them because she's told me they're into that). We seem to have a lot in common so far in terms of our ideals and what we're into. This is the most genuine, organic connection I've made with a lady in nearly 5 years, so I feel like I should do something about it.
My main concerns now are that she won't be interested in me because our lives are a little different, with her having kids and me not having kids, and her being divorced and me never having even been in a long term relationship. Additionally, although she hasn't told me her age (I haven't asked, and I don't care), I'm thinking she's at least early thirties with the two kids, assuming she was at least 18 before she had the older child. She could be even older than 30s though and just have a really young face, I don't know. I'm hoping she wouldn't think I'm too young for her at 27, and looking younger than that myself, more like 18.
So I guess my question is, should I just go for it already? We did dance together last night, and I thought about asking her on a date, but didn't because I just couldn't get myself to. The last time we hung out before this, was before the holidays, and I decided to hold off then, well because the holidays were coming, and after a conversation we'd had when she mentioned a recent breakup, I figured the timing wasn't right. But after an exchange last night when she said she was hungry because she hadn't eaten dinner before going out, I figured maybe next time I'll just ask her if she'd like to out for dinner sometime, perhaps even before we go dancing one night. What do you think?
