What does "much love" mean?

[reeces]

Hi all! I'm a newbie and am excited to have found this site. I've read a few posts and hope you can provide me with some insight as you have with others. So...

I'm 36 (going thru a separation) and he's 25. We met while I was on vacation and had an incredible vibe and chemistry instantly - and have been emailing since I got home. Thought we were just being friends with him supporting me and encouraging me to find myself. Then one day, he signed his email with a "much love".

I'm confused. What does that mean? Is he just being really friendly? I'm thinking that guys don't typically sign anything with "love" unless they mean it, right? Does that mean that I should sign off the same way? If I don't, how will he react? But I don't want to push him away either - I'm willing to explore if there's something real there. To me... it feels like love but it my head tells me that it's too soon to call it love. Or maybe I'm a little scared... I've never had or know of any friends that have dated YM.

Your thoughts and comments would be great! Thanks

 

[greeneyedgirl]

my runnin' buddy's ie: all my friends..... and i said this all the time.

when one of us is leaving the presence of another or getting off the phone or sigining off im's......

cya! much love!

or

a plain ol' LOVE!


to us......it means that you have a love in your heart for that person but you don't say 'i love you' to them, even a friend because, well, you just don't lol. i only have 5 friends i tell 'i love you' to.

but ALL of my friends get the 'much love' or 'LOVE'

so, hmmm, i see it maybe 2 ways?

1. he has love in his heart for you because he thinks that you're a great friend and he wants to convey that to you.

2. he has what he feels may be the BEGINING of feeling's of 'love' and this is his way of testing the waters.

but! if you are going thru a seperation, you are more suseptible to trying to figure out if a guy 'means something' when they in any way, shape, form or fashion drop the 'L' bomb.

i mean, you're not seperated because you were a happy couple, ya dig? lol

just take things slow, listen to what your friend SAYS and don't try to figure out if he MEANS something else.

get matters taken care of first with your current situation before you blast off into something else, however tempting that may be

welcome, and the best of thoughts sent your way

Tracy

 

[deb100855]

My experience with men is that their actions speak louder than their words. I believe "it", whatever "it" is, when he backs his words up with his actions.

 

[yellowrose]

To me it means 'affection' and 'endearment'. I wouldn't over analyze it. Just see what happens in the next month. Good luck!

 

[Tinkabell]

reeces

"much love".

This can mean.....there Isn't much love to go round....but, He thinks there 'IS' because he says 'Much Love'.....It means he is Optimistic about Love, because he believes there is 'Much' of it.....He "Isn't"...IN Love Yet, but he knows he has 'Much Love' ......How much he really will give..., is up to him-- I guess..., but trying to 'Get' ....'Much Love' will probably leave you with 'Less' of it.....


Ending with 'Much Love'.....means there could be opportunities there for the taking.....but dont 'take'.....for this will only push them far away....

Hardly anyone has 'enough' love these days.....(no not you thesedays!!!)

.....so when you meet someone with 'much love'.......be thankful......for there are not many of them around.....

 

[kathyw]

Hi all! I'm a newbie and am excited to have found this site. I've read a few posts and hope you can provide me with some insight as you have with others. So...

I'm 36 (going thru a separation) and he's 25. We met while I was on vacation and had an incredible vibe and chemistry instantly - and have been emailing since I got home. Thought we were just being friends with him supporting me and encouraging me to find myself. Then one day, he signed his email with a "much love".

I'm confused. What does that mean? Is he just being really friendly? I'm thinking that guys don't typically sign anything with "love" unless they mean it, right? Does that mean that I should sign off the same way? If I don't, how will he react? But I don't want to push him away either - I'm willing to explore if there's something real there. To me... it feels like love but it my head tells me that it's too soon to call it love. Or maybe I'm a little scared... I've never had or know of any friends that have dated YM.

Your thoughts and comments would be great! Thanks

It's probably best to give yourself time after a separation or divorce before jumping into another relationship...this little quote sums up my feelings on this pretty well...we believe what we want to believe for the most part...I wish you luck...and hope that you will take things slowly and not rush into another relationship without alot of thought ....

"Nothing is so easy as to deceive oneself; for what we wish,
we readily believe."

*Demosthenes

 

[Science Goddess]

He's probably communicating that he cares about you but I wouldn't read too much into it (or try to analyze it too much).


If it is growing into more than friendship, I agree with Deb.

My experience with men is that their actions speak louder than their words. I believe "it", whatever "it" is, when he backs his words up with his actions.

 

[1love]

I think "much love" is a friendly sort of thing, not to be overanalyzed!

 

[Chicano_Kid]

LOL its just a hop hop term that originated in jamaica. It can mean good luck or I wish you the best. Lol Im laughing because thats like normal talk depending where you are from lol.

 

[reeces]

LOL. Ok ok. Maybe I am being too sensitive and over-analyzing things. I needed a good laugh - thanks y'all!

But... what about when you combine that with (1) him suggesting more than once that I should really consider coming down to visit him, and (2) that he would love to see me again, and (3) that he hopes to see and hear my voice soon... ? Would you still consider his sign-off to be just a friendly spreading the love thing?

I sign off with love to my close friends too but not to any of my guys friends (and they don't do it back either). In this case I'm worried that if I signed off the same way that he may want to escalate things too fast for me. What's another way I can sign off without sounding too lovey or cutey or cold and professional - just sincere? I know that this is a silly question - and I understand that I may be over-analyzing again (LOL) but my head is too tired to think straight.

Thanks again for all your help!

 

[ravenglow]

Yup!! This is just slang....he probably says it to male and female friends alike.

 

[yellowrose]

Would you still consider his sign-off to be just a friendly spreading the love thing?

Just because he wants to see you doesn't mean he is 'falling in love'.

I don't mean to sound negative, but it sounds like you haven't dated a lot. He seems like he likes you and would like to see you IF you take the time and expense to go see HIM.

 

[Science Goddess]

Just because he wants to see you doesn't mean he is 'falling in love'.

I don't mean to sound negative, but it sounds like you haven't dated a lot. He seems like he likes you and would like to see you IF you take the time and expense to go see HIM.

I'm not sure about the dating a lot thing but, yeah, if he wants to see you it seems to me that he'd make the effort to go to you instead of telling you how much he'd like you to put out the effort.

 

[reeces]

lol - no, I guess I haven't dated much. I didn't start dating until I was 18 - and before I met my guy of 14 years, I had only dated 3 other people, of which one was a 3 yr relationship. I'm thinking now that I was needy.

And to add to my story... I'm the one leaving my husband (another story). So, yeah, I'm a little nervous and may over-think things but confident at the opportunities that lay ahead. It's me time! Of course, I might wake up one day in a cold sweat and panic that I have just done the biggest mistake of my life. But hey - time will tell.

Overall, I really appreciate everyone's feedback. It's all good.

"Much love"

 

[reeces]

Thanks SoraNoYume! I am taking time out for me - to find my own personal journey and the extraordinary life meant for me. It's been stressful and I expect it to continue for awhile. Closing that chapter and healing will come in time I'm sure. It's just hard to explain that to my husband (because he is loving and giving person) that I've changed or 'grown' differently. *sigh*

My 'friend' is just supporting me - he understands what I'm doing. And to be clear, he's not the reason why I left my husband. We were 'done' a long time ago. I just don't have much experience with men - and certainly don't want to get into anything that might mess up my focus. I do have a strong and practical mind so I'm trusting that it will lead me on the right path. If anything, my 'friend' has given me hope that there are other people out there that might be more compatible for me and share the same passions. But like you said... I need to be alone - and I'm actually looking forward to it. There's sooo much I want to do. I feel so free!

Thanks again!!

 

[yellowrose]

Hey! There is nothing wrong with being in new again in the dating game. In fact, I think it is great that you have a good attitude. Don't be embarassed to ask all the 'dating' questions you like. You will get a lot of different answers sometimes, but it is all good to learn from.

Just take a LOT of TIME in getting to know guys. There are some people unfortunately that will take advantage of your naivite', so to speak. It is ACTIONS that speak more than the words do.

You are right, this is a great time to explore who you are and where you want to go in life. Do you have any single girlfriends locally?

 

[reeces]

Thanks YellowRose! Everyone has been so great here.

I'll really take to heart - as I've heard it more than once - that actions speak louder than words. I'll definitely keep watch for that as I'm a sucker for romance.

As for single girlfriends... I have only one - and she has been truly helpful but she away for 3 wks - and she has a network of single girlfriends that I'm just beginning to get to know. They've been super (and funny) in giving me the run down.

Ciao for now!

 

[rainforestwi]

for once, an easy question

"Much love" means he is feeling closer to you all the time, yet like most males, is wary of commitment.

It also means he is worried he feels more for you than you for him, and is afraid of expressing it.

If you are in love, be yourself and express your feelings. If he is not mature enough to reciprocate, it doesn't diminish you, it diminishes him. I think he'll be better than that.

 

[yellowrose]

yet like most males, is wary of commitment.

Uh, I don't think that this is necessarily true. We women usually want a commitment at 4 to 8 months, where as the more level-headed guy is ready at 14-18 months (according to some studies that I have read).

It also means he is worried he feels more for you than you for him, and is afraid of expressing it.

I am not sure at how you arrived at that conclusion. I don't see any "worrying" in "much love".

Interesting perspective though. Just shows how many different people have different interpetations. Bottom line... maybe ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Right?

 

[HeatherLynn]

much love is like.....there is this fragile little possibility of a something starting in his mind and you need to NOT SMOTHER IT!!

It may just be some offhand comment, then again it may mean more.

However, whatever it is, the best deal is IGNORE IT and be yourself, dont rush, by overanalyzing already you may very well end up pushing him away.

My 2 cents.

When he says 'Im falling in love with you", then youve got something real to analyze and whatnot.