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You're old enough to be his MOTHER!!

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Hot4Ryan

Guest
Ryan and I get the mother comments fairly often. I'm 42 to his 23 years, and due to an autoimmune disorder, my hair has been graying rapidly in the past couple of years. Hubby asks me not to dye it (we're trying to live as chemical-free as possible). So...

To those who openly ask "are you his mother?" or those who, upon learning our ages, comment "you're old enough to be his mother!" or "cradlerobber" (and yes, we've heard them all)...

I smile mischeviously - maybe even wink - and say "Well, what can I say? I'm lucky he likes his women with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel!"

In restaurants, when servers mistakenly assume I'm his mother.. Ryan always assures me "I'll set him/her straight as we're leaving."

Then as we stand up to leave, he usually manages to find an opportune moment to give me a hearty pinch on the butt (or a pinch on my hearty butt?), timing it so only the 'offending' commenter can see.

Truthfully, we're never offended when it happens. It's just ignorance. We just mutter a little thanks for all the blissful people in the world. ;-)
 
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scarboroughfair

Guest
We don't even have to be in an OW/YM relationship to have total strangers be rude to us.

A 30-something female friend and I had finished dinner out and she wanted to do a bit of shopping. In one shop, she picked out something and was paying for it, when the salesperson (who was around my age) piped up, loud enough for everyone in the shop to hear, "Something for your mother too?" I had to show her my blackest face and say loudly, "Who says I'm her mother? You're being rude. Looks like YOUR mother didn't teach you any manners!" Put me in a bad mood the rest of the evening. :mad:

I like PinkCat's answer: And you're ugly enough to kiss my ***! :D

And this too: His mother doesn’t do the things I do to him.

And also: And your husband/boyfriend is old enough to be your brother!

Other lines I might say, depending on the situation:

- So call the cops! Have me arrested!

- So sue me!

- I AM his mother! So what's your problem?

- I AM his mother! Show some respect, kiddo!

- And I can see you're just SO-O-O-O jealous!

- What's your problem, honey? Your bf/husband doesn't scr*w you enough? Oh, that's because he's not young enough to be your son!

- Yes, I am, and I breastfeed my baby all night long!

- Yeah, and he's a mother-f**king perv, so what ya gonna do?

Rude, I know. But I think one rude turn deserves another. Especially since they're practically begging for it.
 

Stiletto

New member
Update..

We spent 9 days together and no one said anything, and if they did look a little hard.. it was probably more to do with his very long hair and my ruby red streaks and facial piercings than anything else. We're a bit of an odd looking pair.. but we look like we belong together.
 
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cowboysgirl

Guest
This one came from his mother...

I was driving with my BF who had his mother on speaker phone... she is well aware that I am 10 years older but I have not met her yet...

My BF told her "Oh Coco (his dog) loves her".... (me)
His mothers reply "Maybe she is mistaking her for your mother"....
She's 56 Im 31 while I am sure she is an attractive woman.... I can assure her the dog was NOT mistaking me for her....

Havent met her but I'm sure by the sound of that comment I will not be well received....
 
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wtf

Guest
Actually, I'm old enough to be his grandmother, a fact I pointed out to him numerous times before realizing he was serious about this relationship.

The relationship is new and long distance. No one knows except for two women I work with, and they're just happy that I'm happy. In any event, I wouldn't mind telling the world right now that we're a couple.
 
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mistral

Guest
I didn't mind too much

Well, we are broken up since 2 weeks but I remember multiple times that we got that comment. People would ask "Are you his mother?" I would just answer "No, I'm not" And leave it at that. None of their business if we're shagging each other or not. Get a life!!
 

lovesalaugh

New member
We've only been asked once, the first time we met in Las Vegas a woman working in the casino asked me twice, rudely "is that your son?" Twice I said "no" politely, no-one else asked us and havn't since. My ym was angry with her for being agressive but straight after that someone was doing a holiday survey and asked my age, I don't hide it, they were shocked and said I looked like I was 30, go figure.
Our policy is our age's is our business, it's not relevant to us and is no concern of theirs. :no:
 

Stiletto

New member
lol soo....

IF I get asked that question even AFTER the person has heard Chris speak, I may just get snarky and say, "yeah, I dropped his a**e off in Birmingham when he was a baby and only just picked him up.. they grow up so fast, don't you think?"

Chris's plan is to grab my butt whilst giving me a big passionate kiss, then say "what?" like he didn't hear them the first time.
 

Carebear

New member
Two replies

I've put a lot of thought into this and came up with two zingers!

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You're old enough to be his mother!

Me: That's a weird thing to say. Are you into incest or something?

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You're old enough to be his mother!

Me: Really, I never thought of it that way. Hold old is your wife (husband)?

They answer...

Me: Wow! She's old enough to be your sister!!!
 

LunaLove

New member
I've put a lot of thought into this and came up with two zingers!

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

You're old enough to be his mother!

Me: That's a weird thing to say. Are you into incest or something?

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You're old enough to be his mother!

Me: Really, I never thought of it that way. Hold old is your wife (husband)?

They answer...

Me: Wow! She's old enough to be your sister!!!

Thanks for the ideas. :)

Here's another that might fit in certain circumstances. My husband has a friend who's 22 (a few years younger than my husband) and gay. He comes to visit on occasion and has developed a crush on both my husband and I, in different ways. One night we 3 were gaming together and we were debating back and forth about something, my husband then asked him why he kept siding with me, and he said "Cause she's a pure soul and you're a boy", and my husband responded, "Hey, I don't appreciate you calling my wife a pedophile."
 

swirlingnurse

New member
I love these lines ladies! When I would get comments (which hasn't happened in a long time), I'd say I am old enough to know what a good catch is! I just mainly get stares now though.
 

SummerBob

Super Moderator
I hear the same kind of stuff spoken in general. When you hear it in the office or wherever, it really doesn't matter whether it's directed at you or not. If they're mocking or judging your type of relationship, it still hurts, or at the very least is mildly offensive.

When a woman in my office lunch room remarked that a 20-years younger girlfriend of her ex-boyfriend is going to "take his money and run" and will "dump him when he's old" I said nothing. Sometimes nothing is the best response. I'm polite to those people, but I really don't have anything to do with them any more. When they're having lunch together, I walk on by.
 

Maesman

New member
Old enough to be my mother

Mae was 61 the first time I saw her. 7 years later I got her attention. I saw my 22 year old wife off to work I called Mae now 68 and went to her house I was 30 we went straight to bed made love all morning. Mae was my mistress for 22 years. She never looked or dressed her age. Our 38 year difference ment nothing to us
 

Magnolia

New member
That kind of comment, bringing mother, is very disgusting.

I try to avoid that kind of people. They are toxic. If I find myself in a situation where they are judging my relationship I smile and say nothing. Nothing will change their mindset.
 

SummerBob

Super Moderator
I find it interesting that age is the one thing that is the least excused.

I watch the ID channel a lot. Numerous crime shows feature countless people, most young (18 to 20s, some 30s), who get into all kinds of relationships. 99% of the time they're same-age. Parents may or may not approve, but they always seem to make concessions "for their daughter's happiness". As the show unfolds, the guy turns out to have a history as a convicted felon, or is on drugs, or is an alcoholic, or has a violent history, or has ex-spouses/girlfriends who have restraining orders on him and the list goes on. She ends up murdered or in prison for someone else's murder, precipitated by the boyfriend.

Why is it excusable for the guy to be on drugs, a felon, a violent offender, an alcoholic, have a history of family violence, but the one that that is not excused is him being "too old" for her? I know that's not true all the time, but it is true all too often!
 

SheLikesKitties

OW/YM 21YR GAP
Well, actually my husband's mother is younger than me.
Nobody has ever said that to me, but that is what I would answer.
On the other hand, several people have asked me if my son is my husband.
I do not want to think that it is because my 27 yr old son looks 58, but rather that I look 27. :bgrin2:
 

Corsair

Member
Never understood this line of thought. A woman my own age is old/young enough to be my sister/niece/cousin etc I've always responded by saying But you aren't my mother.
 

Magnolia

New member
I personally think it is mean to throw that kind of statement. Nowadays people are more open about their mean-ness. I think they like to see how other do in awkward situations.

"Pretty Woman Wouldn't Get Made Today" --- Julia Roberts.

https://youtu.be/c_wzRtlPJ6U?t=1m37s

I agree with her. It is a sport.
 

Corsair

Member
I personally think it is mean to throw that kind of statement. Nowadays people are more open about their mean-ness. I think they like to see how other do in awkward situations.

"Pretty Woman Wouldn't Get Made Today" --- Julia Roberts.

https://youtu.be/c_wzRtlPJ6U?t=1m37s

I agree with her. It is a sport.

I think it is said to try and shut down conversation and all possibilities. Easier to dismiss someone because of age than it is to chat with them and enjoy the conversation even if that is all it is. A lot of people too are pre-programmed to like and dislike certain things. Age gap relationships is one of them.
 

john21wall

New member
I absolutely agree with you on the rich and powerful men....you wouldnt throw them a second glance if they walked past you on the street....actually I agree with you on all of your post lol...oh and the 70 year old woman and the 31 year old husband had to always tell people she was not his grandma...how awful for her..the cynical side of me wonders will he stay around when she becomes frail and in need of constant care....I hope so....however at the moment the are happy and good luck to them I say!..
 
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